Written by Shonda Hunter, guest blogger
I’m 41 years old and have been through many storms in life, like most people, but we don’t talk about it. We talk about how our day was, or complain about what our spouse or child has done, but we never talk about the emotions that run through us on a daily basis. We don’t talk about our storms and hurricanes.
We as people go through so much and a lot of time we don’t talk about the marks it leaves on us, the emotions we’ll carry. I feel that the past is what shapes who we are as individuals and that to truly understand someone’s emotional state you need to understand where they have been.
I myself go through so many emotions in a day I sometimes forget to breathe. We as women need to understand that it is ok to be emotional, its ok to show our “crazy” sometimes, and its ok to have a friend outside of our family that we confide our emotions to. Like most people, I hide my emotions and don’t show my “crazy” because I do not want to disappoint my parents, my husband, my kids or even my friends.
In hiding a piece of myself, I lost who I am. I forgot that I wanted to work in Atlanta in a high-rise apartment, I lost the smile that was easily given, I lost my sense of what and who I am; trying to be someone or something everyone else needed or believed me to be. I am the woman that likes to go out to have drinks with friends, I like to watch “50 Shades Of Grey” and go to pleasure parties. I am the woman that likes to know that even at 41, and a grandma, I’m still attractive and feel great!
We as women need to acknowledge that we are more than wives, mothers, daughters, sisters, bosses and any thing else that the world thinks that we should be. Hiding my emotions has taught me who I don’t want to be; I’m a work in progress. I’m learning to embrace my “crazy” and feel comfortable with the different emotions. Frustration isn’t always a bad thing, anger doesn’t have to be negative; I’m learning to stand up for myself, find a voice that I didn’t have before. We all get overwhelmed and that’s what our family or friends are for. You can find me at my Aunt’s house, with a beer and cue stick.
We as women need to be honest with ourselves about the hurricane of emotions that we feel daily. Once you are honest with yourself then you can be honest with others, and stand in the eye of the hurricane.